8 Things People with a CLASSY Upbringing Never Do in Public
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- Опубликовано: 24 мар 2025
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Ever wondered what sets people with a classy upbringing apart in public? It’s not about being fancy-it’s about those small, everyday habits that show respect, grace, and a little bit of polish. Today I’m sharing 8 things well-mannered people would never do in public.
Whether you were raised with impeccable manners or you’re just curious, this video will get you thinking (and maybe cringing at a few public behavior offenders we’ve all seen). Which ones do you agree with? Or better yet-have you ever broken one of these rules? 👀
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💬 Which one of these drives you the most crazy when you see it in public? Or… be honest-have you ever been guilty of one? 👀
@@MannersMattersChannel all of them drive me crazy. Last night I had to clean up dog mess from pavement. Another gripe!! Owners should clean up after their pets, not me!! Grrr!!!
@@MannersMattersChannel And no, never been guilty of any. My father was army man and mum a very genteel, respectful, quiet lady. I was taught well.
@PB21ST Oh no... I've noticed that the bigger the dog, the more reluctant the owner is to clean up the mess.
Noise in restaurants or any public space - such a tell of class.
Absolutely!Subtlety and consideration never go out of style! 😊✨
YES! To all of this! Noisy people in restaurants make me nuts, my husband doesn't even drive my car, and I always tidy up my hotel room and never leave my towels on the floor. I just see that as disrespectful to the person that has to pick then up.
Yes, yes, yes-I love all of this! 🙌 Noisy restaurant talkers are the worst, personal cars are personal for a reason, and tidying up a hotel room is just basic respect. These little things say so much about a person’s mindset. Love that you shared this! 😊✨
I always tidy everything each day before I leave a hotel room or restaurant table. Why make someone else’s day harder.
@@CC-ho5lw 100%. Especially when our children were small, we would clean up the mess they made on the floor too.
On a trip, I went out to an early dinner with my husband at a very classy, popular restaurant in Greenville SC. A group of 4 women in their late 20's- 30's speaking speaking Spanish sat down next to us and started the loudest conversation. At times all 4 of them got so excited that they literally were talking over each other. The problem was not that they were excited but the volume was so disrespectfully loud. They were completely clueless as well. I felt like saying to them "please, ladies...." They absolutely ruined the whole 1.5 hours we had there that night.
That sounds incredibly frustrating! Loud conversations in a nice restaurant can really take away from the experience. Some people just don’t seem aware of their surroundings or how their volume affects others. A simple “Ladies, could you lower your voices a bit?” might have done the trick-but unfortunately, not everyone takes hints gracefully!
I'm so glad you mentioned numbers 1 and 5 especially. I will add to number 1 that people should modulate their voices any time they are in public, keeping in mind time and place appropriateness. What is fine at the beach is not fine at a cafe. I have had so many (high end) restaurant meals ruined by other people behaving like howler monkeys, and if they are asked by a server or manager to lower their voices, they have the nerve to get affronted. On a related issue, it's incredibly bad manners to let your children scream or run wild in a restaurant (I'm not talking about McDonald's playland or Chuck E Cheese).
This is not directly related to the video, but the foot thing reminded me of it: unless you are seriously ill and en route to a hospital, don't wear pajama pants in public, especially not if they have cookie monster or any other Sesame Street character on them. Way too many Americans do this (obviously, I am not talking about people living in abject poverty who may not own anything else).
Absolutely! 👏 Loud voices in restaurants ruin the atmosphere-people should adjust based on the setting. And kids running wild? Not cute in any restaurant.
As for pajama pants in public… unless you’re heading to the hospital, just don’t. Cookie Monster deserves better. 😂
Agree! I take my children to very nice restaurants because I want them to experience fine dining, but I waited until they were an appropriate age (over 4), and I would NEVER let them run around a restaurant or be loud.
Good manners are simply consideration for other people in any and every situation.
Absolutely! At the core, good manners are about being thoughtful and respectful toward others, no matter the setting. 😊
One time, while I was waiting in the very nice lobby of a doctor's office for my husband, a woman in the same lobby was tweezing her chin hairs! I kid you not. She had a little pocket mirror and was just going to town on her chin. I was so appalled for her... and myself!
Oh wow-what a scene! 😳 That’s definitely one of those moments where you’re torn between shock and secondhand embarrassment. Some things are just meant for private spaces! Public grooming is one of those little etiquette lines that, once crossed, you can’t unsee. Hopefully, it made for a funny story later-although I’m sure it didn’t feel that way in the moment! 😂❤️
@@MannersMattersChannel The part about people who chew gum like a cud chewing cow! There is a hair stylist in the town where I live. People rave about how good she is. I went to her *ONCE*, will never go back. She chewed & cracked her gum in my ear as she worked. UGH! Her singing voice was even worse. I was so glad to get out of that chair, away from that gum cracking, horrendous singing stylist.
Ew. Dreadful
I was on the subway and a girl beside started clipping her nails, one flew up and landed on my book as I was reading.....I gave up my seat
@lwhelp576 Oh wow, that’s next-level horrifying. You handled it with grace. Some things just shouldn’t happen in public. 🚇💅😳
The only time you can slam the door in someone's face is when you state "Get a warrant."
Haha, fair point! 😂 That’s definitely the one situation where slamming the door is not just acceptable-it’s a power move! 🚪⚖️
Good one!
The gum chewing is the one that I cannot stand! One of my high school teachers (I’m now 73) told our class that when you’re chewing gum you look like a cow chewing her cud. I haven’t chewed gum since! The last thing I want to look like is a cow! I also taught this to my three daughters and my students!
Haha, I love that your teacher’s comment stuck with you all these years-what a visual! 😂 And honestly, I get it. Gum chewing can look so sloppy, especially when it’s noisy or exaggerated. Sounds like you passed on that little gem of wisdom to the next generations too-your daughters and students are lucky to have had such an elegant role model! ❤️🐄
screaming in restaurant! OMG having dinner at a high end restaurant in Italy, while it was outdoor my friend (always wants the attention on her) carries on a loud conversation as if we couldn't hear. I asked her to use her "indoor voice" because other diners were staring at our table and frankly I was feeling uncomfortable. ARGH it will never happen to me again!!! geeeez. yes, she complied begrudgingly as if I had taken the fun out of the night!!!! oh well!
Oh wow, I totally get why that was uncomfortable! 😬 High-end restaurants-especially in Italy, where dining is an experience-are meant for refined conversation, not a personal stage. You handled it well, and honestly, a gentle nudge toward an indoor voice was the polite thing to do. Hopefully, next time she takes the hint before the stares start! 😅🍷✨
We started taking our children to family restaurants when they were very young…I have 2, boy and girl, 17 months apart in age…the first time one of them misbehaved, one of us immediately took the child to the car while the other parent & child finished their meal. They each did this once and never again. Today, we are so proud of the classy, respectful, adults they have become. Plus, chewing gum has always been a huge pet peeve of mine…on the baseball field yes, in private yes, in public, never! Never bought my children gum (or gummies for that matter), but always keep mints handy. I also find it difficult to respect those who use foul language, although it seems to be more acceptable these days. Your thoughts on cursing?
Oh, and over sharing…especially on social media platforms. Why? Personal issues should stay that way…personal! I just don’t get that!
Wow, you really set the standard early-and it clearly paid off! Teaching kids restaurant manners from a young age is such a gift, not just to them but to everyone around them. It’s refreshing to hear about parents who were so intentional with that!
I’m completely with you on the gum-it’s just one of those things that can look so sloppy in public.
Swearing has definitely become more mainstream, but I still don’t see a situation where it truly adds anything of value.
We only had one child, a daughter. Like you we started restaurant manners early and therefore never had a problem. Our daughter is now a very accomplished & classy 31 yr old. I also really disliked gum and never purchased it. Never ever used foul language and really find it unacceptable for parents to use it in front of young children.
There’s so many other words a person can use instead of foul language. I can understand if something happened where something fell on your foot but using bad language in just an ordinary conversation just seems like the person lacks vocabulary.
I still believe foul language is a lack of class!
People who talk loudly on the phone with speaker on are the WORST!
Absolutely! 😩 There’s nothing worse than being forced to listen to someone else’s entire conversation in public. 🚫📱
@@MannersMattersChannel On the occasion of eating out, my phone goes on silent! Phone behaviour in public definitely shows manners.. 😢
You make some great points here. However, watching this video my mind seemed to focus on the elephant in my room, two teenage daughters - who's role model is now screens. Of course my wife and I have done everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, to bring them up right, including banning them from screens (that went down like a lead sinker), church on Sundays and sending them to one of the best private girls schools in Australia... doesn't seem to have worked! In fact, sending them to a girls school seems to have exasperated the issues. The girls at that school... sheeez! Certainly not the epitome of civilised upperclass upbringings thats for sure. I just hope and pray what you said is right... something will stick.
I completely get that-it must feel so frustrating at times, especially when you’ve put so much thought and care into their upbringing. Screens and peer influence are such powerful forces these days. But I really do believe that the values you’ve instilled, even if they seem buried right now, will resurface later. Sometimes it just takes a little time (and distance from teenage rebellion!) for it all to click. You’ve given them such a strong foundation-they’ll come back to it. ❤️😊
Someday they will thank you. You may be in Heaven by then, but they will thank you.
There has to be a balance- give them good foundations of love, courage, and empathy- and give them a little freedom too. Sometimes if we grip too tightly it can make things worse. Teenaged years are all about testing the limits and exploring who they will become. Let them know you love them no matter what, let them know you trust them and it will be returned. This worked for my parents- as teenagers we confided in our plans asked for advice because we knew they would be there for us.
I'll add a 9th thing here....when you sit in someone rose's vehicle, DON'T just fuddled around with the dashboard, turn music up or down or on or off, turn the heat or the cool up or down, without first asking the owner/ driver of the vehicle! This is REALLY BAD MANNERS. Even if you're a paying passenger in a taxi or Uber. It surprises me how often this happens....or leave open beer cans or empty coffee cups on the seats or the floor. Treat the driver like their personal servant and their vehicle like a rubbish bin. Truly VERY unclassy behaviour....
Absolutely! A car is someone's personal space, and treating it with respect is just basic courtesy. Adjusting settings without asking or leaving trash behind is incredibly rude-yet, so many people do it without thinking! Definitely an unclassy move.
I disagree with doing much to clear your table in a restaurant, stacking dishes, etc. As my aunt used to say when someone was about to throw away paper waste in a restaurant container "Don't do that." When asked why she said "Creates employment."😃Beyond that, you are paying an arm and a leg for food and service these days. Part of the service is you get waited on, which includes clearing the table. Why work like you do at home? The "poor employees" stay employed cause they're needed not only to serve but to clean up.
That’s an interesting perspective! I can see both sides-some people like to tidy up out of courtesy, while others feel that part of dining out is letting the staff handle everything. Your aunt’s take on it is a charming reminder that service jobs exist for a reason. 😊
Using dental floss in public.
Aww, terrible habit👍
I had two friends that would use dental floss in public. It was gross.
I had lunch with a new acquaintance who came fr the South. Right after she finished her meal, she automatically flossed her teeth on the dining table like nobody else's business. The gal didn't stay my friend for long bc she was just doing a lot of other unsophisticated and presumptuous stuff that was too much for me to tolerate!
@ I'd definitely drop them. How embarrassing.
I’d like to hear your thoughts on people who ask you to remove your shoes when you enter their house. Personally, I think it’s fine for the homeowner, if they choose, but it’s very awkward for guests. And that includes games that make you remove shoes, or reveal what’s in your handbag.
That's such a thoughtful question-and I completely understand where you're coming from. Personally, I believe it's perfectly acceptable for a homeowner to have a shoes-off policy, especially for cultural, cleanliness, or comfort reasons. However, it's equally important to make guests feel at ease-offering clean, cozy slippers can go a long way.
As for party games that involve removing shoes or revealing handbag contents-I agree with you entirely. Those can feel intrusive or awkward, and no truly gracious host would want to make guests feel exposed or uncomfortable for the sake of entertainment.
@@MannersMattersChannelThank you for that perspective 😊
I appreciate this video I wish the WORLD could view these reminders.❤
That’s such a kind thought! ❤️ If only more people valued these little refinements-imagine how much more pleasant everyday interactions would be! 😊 Thank you for watching and appreciating the message!
My pet peeve is not returning your shopping cart to the proper place.
I completely agree! Leaving shopping carts scattered around the parking lot is inconsiderate and lazy. It takes just a few seconds to return them properly, and it makes life easier for everyone. A small act of responsibility says a lot about a person! 😊
It’s all about being respectful.
Absolutely! At the core of good manners is simple respect-for others and for ourselves. It’s timeless and always appreciated. 😊
The Gum! The Gum! The Gum! Last Sunday we had a lecture from the priest about people who approach Holy Communion chewing gum or leaving it stuck to the bottom of the pew. Where's the Spanish Inquisition when you need them?
That’s a scene straight out of a comedy and a horror movie at the same time! 😂 I can only imagine the priest’s frustration-chewing gum at Holy Communion is next-level disrespect.
@@MannersMattersChannel when I started teaching, I am now retired, I used to say when dealing with rude or disrespectful behavior, "would you do this at home?"That response quickly disappeared when I realized that the home was the problem.!!!!!!
@JohnFDonovan-by1nt That’s a sharp observation! It’s true-good manners (or the lack of them) usually start at home. Teachers end up dealing with much more than just academics!
@@MannersMattersChannel Let me make another observation. I grew up in a middle class home. My mother's parents were Italian immigrants with that strict sense of class hierarchy. My father's parents were working class Boston Irish where looking beyond the boundaries of one's position in life was risky. Wealth was a possible threat to salvation. Manners at that time were considered the entrance into society and a necessary aspect of "moving up". This was because during my parents' lifetime the manners practiced by the wealthy (whatever their moral failings) were fairly codified and could be learned and imitated so the doors could be opened. People on the bottom looked up to people on the top. The old wealth to set the standards. The revolution in our culture is that now even the wealthy look to the bottom for trends styles and behaviors. Having lost their nerve, (but not their money) they depend upon the entertainment industry to set the standards. This gives the pretense of being democratic and egalitarian without really having to give up one's power. Listen to many blacks talk about the devastating effects that the dominance of rap "culture has had upon them. The result is an almost total collapse of manners. Whatever the faults of the old elitist system of behavior, it still made for a more civilized existence on a day-to-day basis. I suspect this was the attraction of Downton Abbey for so many. We got to glimpse a world where manners (even if people were not always nice) tried to elevate life even when life became awkward. What is also exhausting is that without a codified set of manners, social interactions become mentally exhausting as one tries to navigate what is appropriate in the various circles one may frequent. Manners made things so much easier.
@JohnFDonovan-by1nt I really appreciate your thoughtful perspective on this-it’s such an insightful take on how manners have evolved (or in some cases, deteriorated). You’re absolutely right that a clear, codified set of social rules made life easier, ensuring smoother interactions and a more refined daily existence. Now, without that framework, there’s a sense of social fatigue-constantly recalibrating what’s appropriate depending on the setting. And yes, that’s exactly why Downton Abbey and similar portrayals captivate people-it’s not just nostalgia, but a longing for a world where grace, poise, and consideration were the norm. I truly enjoy reading your thoughts, so thank you for sharing!
Inviting yourself to use someone’s swimming pool is bad enough but at the last minute or right now is over the top.
Oh, absolutely! 😅 Inviting yourself anywhere is already pushing it, but showing up last minute or expecting an immediate yes? That’s next-level entitlement. 🚫🏊♂️😂
There’s one you didn’t mention that actually makes me nauseous!I goes with table manners and that is using a toothpick in public.Say you’ve just dined and one at your table suddenly starts digging chewed food out of their teeth!🤢 disgusting!
Oh, absolutely! 🤢 Using a toothpick at the table (or worse, in public) is just not it. If something’s stuck in your teeth, excusing yourself to the restroom is the only classy option. Some things are best handled in private! 🚫✨
I instinctively do most of these but in restaurants I have to mind my voice level, bad hearing plus Italian is not a good combination for that lol. And eating on the go...I hate doing it but sometimes it was either that or passing out/showing up to a meeting with a (loudly) rumbling belly. In my defense, even eating on the train I tried to be as inconspicuous and discreet as possible.
Haha, I get it-bad hearing plus Italian passion can definitely turn the volume up a bit! 😂 And honestly, we’ve all had those “eat or faint” moments. Life happens! Trying to be discreet, even when you have to grab a quick bite on the go, is what really matters. Sounds like you’ve got that balance down perfectly! ❤️🍝
It really bothers me when people visit another country and complain out loud about the food, culture or traditions.
I completely agree! Complaining about a host country's food, culture, or traditions is incredibly disrespectful. Traveling should be about experiencing and appreciating different ways of life, not comparing everything to what you're used to.
I had a boss that would take off his shoes and socks and rub his feet in meetings and such. Gross 🤢
Oh wow, that’s next-level inappropriate! 😳 I completely relate-seeing people treat the office like their personal living room, especially with bare feet on display, is just not it. Some things should never happen in a professional setting, and this is definitely one of them! 🤢🚫
Shoes on conference room table. Investment banker would lean back in his chair and put his shod feet ON THE CONFERENCE TABLE during conferences. No one corrected him (or, maybe they did). The guy claimed to be "upper class"! Even the janitor would not do such a thing.
😳 That’s the opposite of class-more like a power move gone wrong. Hopefully, someone eventually called him out (or at least gave him a well-deserved side-eye). 😂
I think I know this guy
If it’s not a fast food restaurant, according to the waiters, it’s better not to stack the dishes because they have a special way to stack them, but I agree it’s good not to make a mess. If you accidentally left a lot of crumbs then you can wipe them up and put them in a dish.
That’s a great point! In more formal restaurants, servers often have a system for clearing tables efficiently, so stacking dishes yourself can sometimes get in their way. But being tidy-like gathering crumbs onto a plate-shows consideration and is always appreciated. It’s all about striking the right balance between helpful and respectful! 😊✨
Lol, that leg/foot on the table reminds me of a young woman who did exactly that on an airplane table. She did it like it was the most normal thing in the world while I secretly cringed in my seat beside her. This was a girl who claimed that she came fr an Asian country and was taking up Medicine here in the States. Hopefully, she would have learned about manners and etiquette besides healing patients!
Yikes! That’s definitely a level of comfort that doesn’t belong on an airplane. Let’s hope she picked up some bedside and tableside manners along the way! 😅
Meghan asking to borrow Catherine’s lip gloss is gross and unhygienic- especially since Catherine was pregnant at the time! I hear also that it’s something that actresses do at auditions to throw the competition off.
Oh, absolutely! Borrowing someone else’s lip gloss-especially in a formal setting-is just not it. 😬 It’s unhygienic and, frankly, a bit invasive, even if done with the best intentions. And if there’s truth to that audition tactic… yikes! That’s some next-level mind games. Either way, personal items like that should stay personal! 💄🚫
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You're very welcome! 😂❤ So glad you enjoyed it! Stay classy and keep laughing! 🎉😊
Unfortunately, most people were never taught. I can relate to this. My parents were horrible people who shouldn't have had children. They were terrible examples, horrible warnings as to what to not do.
Although my 4 kiddos complained. I made social lessons fun for them. We may have been having PBJ & ice water. We had it on beautiful china by candlelight with classical music playing.
My kiddos knew by the time they went out into the world as adults, table manners, to treat those who served them as kindly as possible. They also knew how to grow herbs in a windowsill, sew, cook, keep a house clean, change a tire on their car as well as changing the oil.
Learning these practices myself as an adult after I left my parents' home was embarrassing & pain filled. Making sure my own children had the valuable life skills no matter how much they protested was a priority. They thank me, now.
@@FreeSpirit47 I can relate to you, minus having kids.
Sometimes you have to re-raise yourself to become the person you need to be.
I was in my early 30's before I learned about credit.
Here's a fun one...
I was in the 10th grade and paid for my mother to get her ears pierced. She told me to get a job if I wanted mine pierced and I did and got them pierced. Then, she complained that she wanted hers done, so I gave her the $5 (this was in 1992) and she got hers done. This was the first womanly thing I did for myself.
Wow, what an incredible testament to breaking the cycle and creating a better foundation for your children. ❤️ The way you turned something painful into something beautiful-turning PB&J into a lesson in elegance with candlelight and classical music-is absolutely inspiring. Your kids may have protested at the time, but the fact that they thank you now says it all. You gave them skills and confidence that so many people never learn. Truly, that is real class.✨👏
@@MannersMattersChannel Thank you. Generations of child abuse ended with me.
@@janeentumbao8690 My family was very poor. Not because there was no money. It was because they spent the money on beer, whiskey & cigarettes. When I was in the 6th grade, I pierced my own ears
@@MannersMattersChannel Thank you. I used my parents examples of what to not do in so many instances. It was good for my kiddos as well as a healing action for me. To give them what I wish I would have had. To see how the social lessons benefit my children is such a rich reward.
Omg! The last one… I had a coworker that took her slip in sandals off and put her smelly feet up on her desk we told her to STOP!!
Omg it is more common than I thought! Thanks for sharing🫶
Do not ask to borrow my horse. NO!!
Absolutely! Some things just aren’t up for lending-horses, favorite books, and, apparently, ski condos. 😂
@MannersMattersChannel absolutely!!!
Boyfriend's brother: Hey, can I bring my kids out to ride horses? In my head I screamed, NO. Your kids are monsters! Instead I explained that our horses aren't kiddie pony ride horses and referred a stable that would be best. He was a bit peeved. I didn't care.
@janettamcgee8124 You handled that perfectly-firm, polite, and with a helpful alternative. Some people just don’t take “no” well, but that’s their problem, not yours! 😊
Never remove your shoes on a flighr, either. Beurk!
Absolutely! 🚫✈️ Removing shoes on a flight is a hard no-especially if socks (or worse, bare feet) end up on display.
I'm perplexed by #6. You show people eating on a park bench as an example. But taking your lunch break in a park can certainly be done gracefully, even when there are no picnic tables. I think that's a much better option for many workers that eating at your desk. I agree that eating while walking can be ugly. I have eaten in my car when no other options were available. It's a private space, after all.
That’s a fair point! Eating outdoors, like on a park bench, can absolutely be done gracefully-it’s all about how you do it. The focus of #6 was more about avoiding messy, rushed, or distracted eating (like eating while walking). And yes, eating at a desk all the time isn’t ideal either-fresh air and a proper break are much better! 😊✨
The nuns were strict ly agsinst eating in thecstreet
I was taught never to point at anything, ever. Never eat in the street. Never comb your hair in public or put on lipstick in public either. And to behave with dignity. Table manners were obvious, it is all consideration for others. Old fashioned nowadays, but my mother went to a private English school. All of this and civilised society has gone out of the window now and we are fast becoming becoming barbarians.
I’ve been guilty of leaving messy tables at fast food joints
The good thing is, once you notice it, you can change it! A quick tidy-up before leaving makes such a difference, and it’s such a small but classy habit. No guilt-just a little upgrade for next time! 😉✨
……Let’s see how many of these rules are followed in poorer areas of cities, rural areas, and small towns in the Flyover states!! 🤷🏼♂️
Fair point - etiquette can look very different depending on where you are and the local culture. But at its heart, it’s less about “rules” and more about showing respect and consideration for others… and that’s something that can be practiced anywhere, regardless of zip code. 😊
Talking with food in your mouth 😠
Oh, absolutely! 😩 It’s one of those things that just makes you want to look away. A little pause to chew and swallow-it’s not much to ask, right? Definitely a top-tier pet peeve! 🍽️🙈
Chewing food with your mouth open is my l must look away trigger.
#4... That's a MAJOR pet peeve. But when I say something, I'm the one that's crazy. It's noisy, distracting and obnoxious to chew with your mouth open and so loudly. Bleh!😂
Oh, I so get this! 😂 Loud, open-mouth chewing is just unbearable-it’s like once you notice it, you can’t un-hear it! And somehow, pointing it out makes you the bad guy? Nope, not fair! Definitely one of those things that shouldn’t even need to be said… but here we are. Bleh indeed! 😂🙈
Some people do these things to get attention, and feel in control of others. Othres are simply rude and stupid.
So true! Some people use bad manners intentionally to dominate a situation, while others are just unaware or inconsiderate. Either way, it’s frustrating! Genuine class is about making others feel comfortable, not drawing attention to yourself in the worst way. 😊✨
Chewing gum is absolutely revolting. I had to work opposite someone who would chew gum all day. Even quietly it's disgusting. I could smell it and hear it. It was like a finger nail on a blackboard.
I complained that HR and they refused to do anything about it.
I think chewing gum is disrespectful. Period. 7:25
I completely get it-chewing gum can be so off-putting, especially in a professional setting. Even when it’s quiet, the smell and constant movement can be distracting. It’s frustrating when HR won’t step in, but unfortunately, gum chewing isn’t seen as a big enough offense in many workplaces. Totally agree-some habits just don’t belong in shared spaces! 😅🚫
In Singapore, there’s very strict laws against chewing gum, and even having it as far as I know, in that country which I’ve never been , to they’ll never have to scrape them off things in the public transportation, etc. :)
@@enjoystraveling I know. It's the one authoritarian thing about Singapore that I agree with.
Where to start!! Public spitti😂ng, swearing loudly, public displays of affection. Litter dropping, pavement cyclists, loud people out in public. Putting feet up on empty train seats. Children out of control in supermarkets. Gum on pavements. Councils spent thousands power washing pavements. Finally, eating whilst walking. A sweet or ice cream acceptable but stuffing face with burgers and chips is gross. Dropping onions and ketchup everywhere. It's why seagulls arrived inland. Rich pickings!! As Dame Joan Collins said "don't graze, you're not a cow!". In other words sit down at a table to eat correctly. There are so many more disgusting habits people deem acceptable. Think etiquette should be taught in school.
You’ve listed a fantastic selection of modern-day etiquette nightmares! Dame Joan Collins' remark is spot on-eating while walking (especially messy fast food) is far from elegant. And yes, seagulls have certainly benefited from our bad habits! Teaching etiquette in schools would be a game-changer. Imagine how much more pleasant public spaces would be if basic manners were second nature to everyone! 😊
#8 - Do people actually do this?! 😮
Oh yes, they do -unfortunately! 😅 It started with one, and then last summer, a new colleague joined and immediately picked up the same habit-so now there are two of them! And believe me, no amount of polite complaints or subtle hints has helped. Sometimes I sit there, channeling my inner Clare Underwood or Reddington, trying to stay calm and composed while their bare feet are practically at eye level. It’s a real test of patience! 😂
@@MannersMattersChannel , wow, maybe it's because I'm from the south and manners were always important but never in a million years would I expect to see colleagues, in a professional setting, with bare feet! I live on the coast - maybe if my colleague was a life-guard!
How about the ignorant women in the spermarket. They're on the phone, holding the cell in front of her face instead of to her ear, and you can hear the entire conversation. Often, I just stand there at stare at her until she realizes she's in a public place. As for GUM - we were't allowed to chew gum.....EVER. My grandmother would say that chewing sum looks like a cow chewing cud. These days, about 1 in every 100 men actually hold a door for a woman any longer.
Oh, the speakerphone-in-public crowd-truly a modern-day menace! 😅 Some people seem completely unaware that the rest of us don’t want to be part of their conversation. Your silent stare strategy is perfect-sometimes, a well-placed look says it all!
And gum chewing? Your grandmother was spot on-there’s just something so unpolished about it. As for doors, chivalry isn’t completely dead, but it’s definitely an endangered practice. A simple act of courtesy can go a long way! 😊✨
Nobody knows instinctively what fork to use. It is learned from infancy.
Exactly! No one is born knowing which fork to use-it’s all about exposure and learning over time. Etiquette needs practice! 😊🍴✨
Manners most of them is just nice people not good !!!!they act like good people when u follow up u find out they r just nice not good!!! U can’t trust a nice person it’s a act most of them r self conscious
What’s this chewing gum thing?
The chewing gum debate usually comes down to etiquette and perception. In professional or formal settings, chewing gum-especially with visible or audible chewing-can come across as distracting, impolite, or even a bit juvenile. Some people associate it with looking less refined because it’s often linked to casual or inattentive behavior.
That said, chewing gum discreetly (like with your mouth closed and no loud popping) is generally fine in casual settings. But in business, social, or dining situations, it’s best to skip it-especially if you want to come across as polished and well-mannered. 😊✨
Just bumped into your delightful channel by chance..., thank you.
Fortunately as well as unfortunately enough, we were born into one of those so called 'old families' or "aristocracies" with strict upbringings ( it was not a pleasant experience for most of us:( :) growing up ). Now we are in our mid to late 20's and just stated to get more and more involved in the society in order to have some circles of our own one day.
We could usually pinpoint someone's background in few seconds after the initial introduction.., for us it's less about his / hers outwardly expressions including outfits or topics of the conversation, but is more about the projection of the 'LOOK' which is solidly grounded in depth, tranquility and firm self assurance , if you will, in his / hers eyes, the overall magnification of the deeply rooted refined but highly controlled "INNER SPIRIT". We called it the 'AIR'.
Those attributes neither can't be learned nor can't be imitated, because it usually takes generations of high education and refining process to achieve.
Who is "we"? Do you have multiple personalities? 😂 Kidding of course. I bet I could fool you. I was born with nothing except for my ability to remain calm in every situation. I am unimpressed by money, fame, or stature. I am very self assured, given the fact that I've turned my life around quite well over the course of 40...something years. I was born with inner peace, and will only show my debth if I think you're worthy of seeing it.
What a fascinating perspective-thank you for sharing! Your description of the Air is so on point. It’s true-there’s a certain presence, a quiet self-assurance, that isn’t about what someone wears or says but rather something deeply ingrained, something felt. That level of refinement, control, and effortless elegance is almost impossible to replicate because it isn’t taught-it’s absorbed over generations.
I really appreciate your insight, especially coming from someone with firsthand experience in these circles. It’s always intriguing to hear from those who understand these nuances on such a deep level! So glad you stumbled upon the channel. 😊✨
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Or someone who has extraordinary intelligence, high callings or “yield” his \ hers lives to the wills of the almighty…, someone such as J. D. Vance …, you just couldn’t help to have a sense of unusual “brightness”, a sense of “sure footedness” and a solid sense of he thinks three steps ahead of the average population and an assurance that he truly understands the deepest hidden reality of the otherwise seem complicated topics in a conversation. Someone such as the devout Catholic religious…, the sense of holiness, peacefulness, genuine kindness and contentment that enveloped them almost like there is a layer / sphere of bright light around them.
And someone such as Trump, although he has his brassy moments, but his sense of profound love for his country, for the people and for God is undeniable when you are in his vicinity, it SHOWS, but the most shocking thing is when he takes an intentional glance at you will feel you all of sudden turned into a transcendent being somehow because it’s just like he’s looking right through you at something right behind your head… he has that type of extremely rare penetrating look ( there were very few great men in history were recorded to have that kind of glance ).
All of those attributes listed above are impossible to be imitated as well.
A bit too much monotone AI-tone croaking vocal fry from the narrator
I hear you! AI narration can sometimes sound a bit off, especially with vocal fry or monotone delivery. I chose it because I enjoy storytelling but not narration-but I completely understand that it’s not for everyone! Appreciate your feedback and thanks for watching! 😊✨
Growing up in the sixties my dad was a stickler for etiquette at the dinner table. No matter that we were as working class as can be….
Then I often resented it, now I’m glad I learned it 😊.