My wife cheated, but I liked it?! Help!

Looking for Advice on My Situation

This is a real situation that happened about 10 months ago. I’m not looking for hate, just genuine advice.

I still remember the day I found out my wife was cheating. It was one of the most intense moments of my life. I’ve always been fascinated by the idea of the cuckold lifestyle, so when I discovered her infidelity, I felt both panic and excitement.

My wife and I had been in a long-distance relationship for months before we got married. During one of my visits, we were getting ready to go out with mutual friends. While she was in the other room, I checked her phone using Apple’s recently added feature that allows you to view deleted iMessages. Some may call it an invasion of privacy, but I had my reasons, before we were married, I had caught her messaging another guy, planning to visit him while lying to me about working late. She had apologized, promised it wouldn’t happen again, and I forgave her.

However, a year later, I found another suspicious message. A number was saved under a female friend’s name with emojis. Curiosity got the best of me, so I restored the chat. That’s when I saw it, she had been texting another guy, someone who used to visit her at work.

The texts were along the lines of this:

Him: “Hey, do you remember me?”
Her: “Of course I do.”
Him: “I can’t stop thinking about you!”
Her: “I think about you a lot too.”

A few messages later, things escalated:

Him: “I honestly can’t forget your kisses that night. You did that on purpose so I wouldn’t be able to forget you.”
Him: “When I see you, I’m going to fuck the ******* out of you!”*
Her: “You better, but the issue is I don’t work anymore and he’s always around. It’s going to be hard to see each other.”

We live in a small town, so seeing familiar faces daily isn’t unusual. My wife and I often walk to the gym together, nothing out of the ordinary. She usually wears standard gym attire: leggings and a regular shirt. I never thought much about it.

Then I saw another message from him:

Him: “I see you going to the gym almost every day, and those leggings make me so hard. I want to say something, but he’s always around you.”
Her: “It’s not fair that you can only see me. I want to see you too, but if I look around too much, he’ll get suspicious. Why don’t you come to the gym and watch me train? I want to see you, even if it’s just for a few minutes.”

Later, she messaged him again:

Her: “I’ll try to sneak out for at least 20 minutes, but I don’t think you’ll be able to satisfy yourself in that little time.”
Him: “With you, I’ll finish quickly.”

Then, he sent another message:

Him: “Just let me know if you want me to pick you up at the same place I dropped you off last time.”
Her: “Send me a voice message so I can be 1000% sure it’s you.”

He sent the audio, but I don’t remember exactly what he said. That was the last of the messages.

I had finally read everything and decided to confront her immediately. She broke down crying, insisting nothing happened and that they never had sex. When I asked about the “kisses,” she claimed he once dropped her off after work and kissed her on the cheek, but that was it. She said she was scared of him, which didn’t make sense to me, why would she be scared of someone she was trying to meet up with alone for 20 minutes?

As we were arguing, I was still physically aroused. Seeing an opportunity, to possible move this to a cuck relationship, I moved her hand onto me so she could feel how hard I was. She instantly pulled away, panic in her voice, and asked:

Her: “Why are you hard?! Wait… do you WANT to see me fuck someone else? What the fuck?!”*

Seeing her reaction, I quickly backtracked, saying:

Me: “No, no, that’s not it. I was just trying to change the subject.”

I made something up to steer the conversation elsewhere. It took a while for our relationship to return to normal, but since then, I haven’t stopped thinking about those messages. I find myself watching cuckold porn, fantasizing about my wife with another man. She loves watching double penetration porn, and sometimes I ask if she would ever try something like that. Her usual response is either:

Her: “Baby, stop.”
or
Her: “We’ll see.”


My final questions/advice I need is:


1. Do you think she actually had sex with the guy she was texting?

2. How can I bring up my cuckold desires without scaring her or damaging our relationship?
 
1. Talk to her and ask her.
2. If yes, bring out your cuckold desires, it cannot change or break anything at that point
 
I would be honest with her. Tell her that you were embarassed to admit that you do thibk it would be hot if she had sex with him. Just make sure you help her to understand that you do love her and care about her and that you just think it wpuld be a fun thing for the both of you if shes interested.
 
I would be honest with her. Tell her that you were embarassed to admit that you do thibk it would be hot if she had sex with him. Just make sure you help her to understand that you do love her and care about her and that you just think it wpuld be a fun thing for the both of you if shes interested.
It is hard. I told mybwife all the time. If she want to fuck.another guy is ok. I am.ok.with this but I want to know. I want to know from her not from other people.
 
I think that a lot of cuck/hotwife relationships develop from the husband finding out the wife is cheating, and it turns him on.

I also think there are guys who find out their wife is cheating, and it turns him on that she is dating another guy, but he decides to pretend not to know.

Personally, I think it is better to get it out in the open between the couple so he can openly encourage her to have sex with other men.

Rob
 
Looking for Advice on My Situation

2. How can I bring up my cuckold desires without scaring her or damaging our relationship?
"Earth to Bloo, your relationship is already damaged".
Besides, you're no more sneaking around on her than she is with you. You actually have the field advantage here, you need to realize it. If she starts getting upset that you're sneaking around on her privacy, you need to smack her with what SHE'S doing. You don't need to try to compromise and you don't need to say "you're sorry". She's the one that should feel guilty, not YOU.
Then tell her that if she's ok with what she's wanting to do, to do it, just so long as YOU can do it when YOU want to as well. Don't let this become a one-sided arrangement.
I don't think your marriage is very stable, I think she's bored with marriage in general, and I think you might be as well. So, if "honesty" and openness isn't in your marriage you really have nothing to lose by confronting her with this. I hope you don't have ki.ds ... that's always a messy part to separations & divorces.
 
Well, you should definitely tell her you have never been so aroused when finding out she's cheated, and that you can't help but imagine her fucking other men. And always say, Men that are far bigger and better than you.
But..... If she flips and tells you she will never do it again and she could never fuck a guy infront of you. Then you've wasted your breath and may as well walk away.
Maybe see how that talk goes, and if it goes towards the walking away option, then try a last ditch ultimatum attempt to put your relationship straight. But...... YOU No more checking phones, and SHE no more hiding relations with other men from you.
 
I think that a lot of cuck/hotwife relationships develop from the husband finding out the wife is cheating, and it turns him on.

I also think there are guys who find out their wife is cheating, and it turns him on that she is dating another guy, but he decides to pretend not to know.

Personally, I think it is better to get it out in the open between the couple so he can openly encourage her to have sex with other men.

Rob
I have heard and read about this....wife cheats, husband finds out. He is upset, but strangely and unexpectedly turned on.
 
Just tell her everything like you said it here, man. Be entirely honest. Tell her it excited you reading the messages and that when you put her hand on your erection you were trying to tell her you liked it. Tell her that you were scared by her reaction and lied about trying to change the subject and apologize for that. Tell her you love her and you don’t mind if she wants some side dick. In fact, you want it! Also tell her (if it’s true) that you’ll also accept it if she doesn’t want the side dick.

If she refuses to fuck the other guy and be honest about it but is happy to do it in secret… you may have other problems - but there’s a chance that this goes somewhere better.
 
Just tell her everything like you said it here, man. Be entirely honest. Tell her it excited you reading the messages and that when you put her hand on your erection you were trying to tell her you liked it. Tell her that you were scared by her reaction and lied about trying to change the subject and apologize for that. Tell her you love her and you don’t mind if she wants some side dick. In fact, you want it! Also tell her (if it’s true) that you’ll also accept it if she doesn’t want the side dick.

If she refuses to fuck the other guy and be honest about it but is happy to do it in secret… you may have other problems - but there’s a chance that this goes somewhere better.
I agree
 
I really like the part where she was messaging another guy and lying to you about staying late for work before you guys even got married and she apologized and said “it would never happen again” and you believed that lol. That’s really something. There is no such thing as it won’t happen again. They will always lie again and cheat again. Maybe subconsciously you married her knowing that. Maybe you all along wanted a cheater. You probably don’t realize how jealous lots of guys may be reading that. Me being one of them. I desperately want to marry a cheater. This is what I would say. You could like many suggest just come out and tell her how you feel. First she will be shocked and want to get away from that conversation and might even refuse the cuckold thing. For some women it’s the cheating behind your back they get off on. You could have fun with it. Create a perfect opportunity for her to be away from you and cheat. When she gets home eat her pussy like you are a starving dog. See how she reacts. Start acting like you are crazy in lust for her every time she sneaks away to see another guy. After a while she may get the clue or ask you what the hell is going on. Then you can either tell her or just keep the game going by saying something like I get turned on when you are away.
 
Back
Top